This is a new writing spot in the same tiny winter condo I share with my newly retired husband, Al. Well, he retired January 1, 2020. Since then, it’s been a journey. We came almost immediately south to our winter home in St. Petersburg, Florida. Since we bought this place, this is the longest Al has been here. Since we’ve been married, this is the longest time the two of us have been together all day every day.
At first, Al had lots of activities and so I was able to comfortably keep most of my beloved habits and routines. I could write in my notebook every morning, spend a good part of Monday writing a blog post, go to dance class, yoga class and writer’s group. Al golfed, went to the gym, and took up shuffleboard. He was thinking of joining a poker group that meets at the clubhouse. Those were good times.
You know what happened next. COVID-19. Al and I have been mostly at home without much interaction with others for one week. My mother back in Michigan has been isolated for two weeks. It took us a little longer to get the memo that staying home is what we should do. Al stopped golfing. The gym closed. All my activities here on the Bayou closed, as did Al’s shuffleboard. We’ve heard people are still using the pool, but I’ve never been one for pools. I prefer beaches.
All our 35 miles of lovely white sand beaches have closed. Our Michigan family has canceled a trip down. That was wise, the right thing to do. You want to be in your home state where your doctors are when a pandemic hits. Our doctors are in Michigan and we are just moving in the Medicare so we really hope we don’t have to visit any doctor here. Most people who get this evil disease won’t have to see a doctor. We are older, but we’re healthy, so we’re optimistic. Speaking of healthy, I taught Al yoga. I miss my yoga teacher, though. She was really, really good. I just do the basics, like the series of poses called Sun Salutation to “Here Comes the Sun.”
We had a dance party, just the two of us, one night, with the help of Alexa, our non-human helper. Mostly she plays songs for us and tells us the weather in Michigan. We used to feel smug about that…now we just ask so we won’t pack up the car and head north too soon. For one thing, my dad is here. I hope to talk him into coming home with us (not working so far). The other part is our house there is much bigger, although really I finally have Al where I’ve always secretly wanted him, close by my side all day every day. Except when I want to read or write.
We watched the new ZZ Top rock doc on Netflix (I’m not a fan of their music but I love a good story about creative people making their dreams come true and this one was excellent). Also on Netflix, we’re watching The Stranger. It’s good, too. I see that the new Emma is coming to video straight from the mostly-closed movie theaters. I’m torn. $14.95 seems way too much to pay. Maybe for my birthday. Until then, we’ll just go on as we have and hope the sky doesn’t fall.
Things are quiet. We see walkers and people playing tennis, but we prefer to keep our social distance. At first I didn’t even want to take walks, but since Al did yoga, I have to now. Other than walking along the bayou nature trail, we have been to the grocery store, and my dad visited last Tuesday. That’s the extent of our activities outside staying in this little condo together. Which is why I moved my desk into the bedroom. The bedroom has become my refuge for reading and writing as Al pretty much watches CNBC (or as I call it “the money channel”) from opening bell until close of market. It keeps him (mostly) calm and busy, so I’m not complaining.
We live in Pinellas County, where there are currently 38 known cases of coronavirus, the virus that causes the disease of COVID-19. That’s low and we’re lucky. Most people in Florida (70%) are retired and don’t work anymore. We’ve saved all our lives for a little slice of year-round sunshine. Our lives have been upended, sure, but we don’t have many of the problems the rest of the country struggle with. Not yet.
It’s those people here and elsewhere on the globe, who have been on my mind. I’m worried for small businesses, for the service industry, for the paycheck-to-paycheck folks. There’s a great tradition in St Pete for small businesses. Downtown is mostly run by entrepreneurs. We love that. I see I am speaking for Al now. It was bound to happen. I’m surprised at how good we get along in this small space. I’m surprised how little I watch the second television that everyone said was essential when a spouse retires. But then, I am a reader and a writer.
I am also about to turn 65, the magic number for people who want to get into grocery stores early, when everything is freshly sanitized and shelves are fully stocked. You can see how that really won’t matter to us here where almost everyone is 65 and older. It will be a mob scene, but at least a clean one.
I had big plans for my birthday. A new business in St Pete, Book + Bottle was supposed to open last week. They sell books and wine. I love the whole concept. So I was going there, dragging Dad and Al because it’s my birthday and I get to say where we go and what we do. I also planned on visiting Frida’s bakery and cafe, another wonderful local business, for my dinner out, because I never cook on my birthday. Also, they have flourless chocolate cake and great food. I went there with writer friends before the enemy virus hit, and thought Al and Dad would like it there, too.
Just like almost everywhere in America, those two places have mostly closed for business. I hope our local small businesses can keep it together until the crisis is over and we get back to normal. It feels sometimes like things will never be normal again. Or there will be a new normal. Both Book + Bottle and Frida’s have curbside service, so we may just hop in the car and go out to support those businesses from afar. I’ve never ordered a book or a bottle of wine as a carry-out before. Since it’s my birthday, I can insist!
It’s a whole new world out there. I hope you are doing well. Until next week…
stay safe and well and take it all in stride, sounds like you are doing just that
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Thanks Beth, you too! Just saw Michigan is in offficial lockdown. 🧘♂️
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yes, indeed –
Hang in there. Michigan under Stay At Home order from midnight to 4/13. So much for Easter!
Enjoyed your writing & retirement thoughts. Bliss with an edge. Happy birthday!
P.S. Chose my cover artist. Gave suggestion.
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Chocolate cake, flour-less or otherwise is my favorite!
My oldest was born in Florida – Fort Lauderdale. I’ve also lived – briefly – in Tallahassee. It’s an optimistic state.
Look at this on the bright side – you could always pretend you’re on a honeymoon in an isolated island 😉
About the cake: Mine, too, Jina. About the state: I agree Florida is full of optimists. Al and I both tend to be that way, which is maybe one reason why we mostly get along. 💕
I’m in California which is a state with a lot of outdoor activities available so it’s virtually been impossible for authorities to keep people inside. We have a large backyard so I don’t have to go far for exercise! Take care!
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We visited L.A. often when our son lives there. I have viewed news reports that freeway congestion, which was wicked on a good day, has eased. Your big backyard sounds like heaven about now, Jan 😁 Enjoy the sunshine and stay safe💕
My friend. March 23rd was my birthday. I discovered that the world does not have to celebrate with me as I envisioned for a lifetime. We went for a car ride on the VA hospital property and it felt like we were in some foreign place with the exotic canopy of trees overhead and watching boaters put their skiffs back on trailers and looking at a beautiful span of water. Next we joined a friend for a sparkling glass of wine, snacks and conversation, a card and gift. Moving on back to our condo we decided on a menu and ordered a meal, delivered by someone, we trusted, was free of the scourge of the time. Food was great. Finally my friend asked if we had candles to put on the decadent cake we purchased earlier in the day. No, I said, no candles. Can we sing, he asked and so we began that all too familiar ditty but we laughed instead. I cut the cake, I made a private wish. I hope it comes true. A birthday I’ll never forget!
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Doraine, I’m so happy your birthday was good despite everything. If we can’t make small moments of happiness in new ways, we would be in much worse of a pickle. Your creativity and optimism inspires me 😁🤗
Nice to hear your update. I’m doing many of the same things that you are to cope. Take care. Be well